Fight or Flight? Or Neither? My work is people. I’m fascinated by the way people act, interact and react. And how so much of it does not serve them well. Or, how so much of it is NOT useful or helpful to their greater goal or mission; not helpful to being positive, productive, maintaining healthy relationships... Why as human beings are we addicted to drama? Or why do we think we are or have to be? Addicted to the speed at which we think things have to move? To the need to solution and fix things? Most of the work I do is have conversations with leaders and teams. When talking about the climate of their team, the three things that are consistently present in those conversations are:
So how do you win? Or why do you have to win? Or do you even have to win? As I observe and engage with others in my life, personally and professionally, I also experience those three things. The following is today’s date from “Daily Reflections for Highly Effective People: Living the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People Every Day” by Stephen R. Covey of the Franklin Covey Co. You may be scripted in the abundance mentality; I may be scripted in the scarcity mentality. You may approach problems from a highly visual, intuitive, holistic right brain paradigm; I may be very left brain, very sequential, analytical and verbal in my approach. Our perceptions can be vastly different. And yet we both have lived with our paradigms for years, thinking they are “facts,” and questioning the character or the mental competence of anyone who can’t “see the facts.” Now, with all of differences, we’re trying to work together – in a marriage, in a job, in a community service project. So how do we transcend the limits of our individual perceptions and come up with Win/Win solutions? The answer is seek first to understand, then to be understood. How often do you do just that? Truly.
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