"People don't do things to you, they do them for themselves."
Once you can adopt this tiny but important piece of wisdom, you may look at your interactions with others through a completely different lense. Realizing what you have control of in any situation and then taking appropriate action on it at the right time AND the right way is the key to increasing the success of your interactions with others - both personally and professionally. How many people wake up in the morning hoping to irritate or upset people? Truly...not many... Think about your impact vs. your intention...think about the other person's impact vs. intention... Where might you have gaps in understanding and impact? Here's a quick and easy watch that serves as a good reminder, feel free to share! http://youtu.be/N6TgO2RupGE
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Jason
2/21/2013 11:51:29 pm
We each choose to feel the victim of perceived wrongs or the beneficiary of perceived good deeds. At the end of the day the individual is capable of experiencing either "reality" by his or her own choice. The key is knowing that we are in control of our reactions. I often smile and find a way to laugh when someone has done something overly selfish for themselves that leaves me in a compromised position. I'm talking little things like poor decision making while driving or words from co-workers, friends or loved ones who are lashing out in non-constructive ways. When it comes to bigger things that require action, I usually ask the person if they realize they are being overly selfish in a way that could be perceived as aggressive or hurtful. my 2 cents ;)
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Jolene Clark
2/25/2013 12:57:36 pm
Thanks for the insightful comment Jason! I agree with your note that its all about the "reality".
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